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Today's lesson is called "Identity." Your identity is what you believe about yourself so this topic is a little bit similar to the topic ofbeliefs. We've talked a lot about beliefs before remember?
Limiting beliefs and empowering beliefs. Identity is really an important kind of belief, it's a collection of beliefs about yourself. The reason this is important, more important than just normal beliefs, is because these are global beliefs, universal beliefs.
Now by global I mean beliefs that affect everything. Global cornes from globe which means all of the world. Your global beliefs affect all your other beliefs. They influence all your other beliefs.
They influence all of your other emotions. They influence everything. They're kind of the most fundamental beliefs, the core, deepest beliefs, the central beliefs. And other beliefs corne from them.
So you're already been thinking a lot about your beliefs related to English, for example. But now I want you to think about the beliefs you have about yourself, who you are. What kind of person
you are, what your abilities are. These are very, very important. You need to choose them because most of us grow up and we learn them from other people. We don't even know its happening.
For example, we grow up thinking we are citizens of a certain country. And that's true, of course it's true. But if we identify too much, if that belief is too strong, we can become negative, possibly even violent towards people from other countries.
Someone could say "l' m an American. l' m an American, America is number one! l'm the best. Everyone else sucks." Well, believe it or not, there are people in the United States who think that.
There are people like that in every country, in Colombia, in Australia, in Sweden. Obviously this is nota positive belief, not positive for most people. It has a lot of negative consequences.
So we've got to be careful about our global beliefs, about what we believe about ourself. More commonly, we have a lot of beliefs about what we can do and what we can't do. We have beliefs about ourselves "I am this and I am not that." l'll give you an example of a typical limiting global belief that many of my students have. For many, many, many years, some students had a belief "I'm nota good language learner." This was a very strong belief that they had, a global belief about themselves. Now, every time they tried to learn a new language, English for example, this belief was there. Do you think it helped them learn English? No,
it didn't. It had the opposite effect. It frustrated them. It caused them to quit again and again and again. And here's what happens. They keep having this idea in their head from the past, "I'm not a good language learner. I'm a poor language learner."
So when they started to try to learn English, for example, what happened? W ell, they started learning. And unfortunately they were trying normal, traditional methods, not Kale's methods. They know better now, but in the past they didn't know. So they were trying just these normal methods. And, of course, it was difficult. They had problems. They made mistakes. It was difficult for them to understand. So what happened is this experience touched, interacted with their global belief "I'm nota good language learner" or "I'm a poor language learner" which made these experiences even more difficult. So, some of them looked at these experiences and decided the meaning was "Well, see! I'm nota good language learner, of course. Of course English is difficult because I'm nota good language learner." So they quit.
Now another persan can have the same experience. Let's say somebody who has the belief "I am a great language learner", like you! You love learning languages. You are fantastic at languages.
And you start to learn French or German and guess what happens? You have some difficulties. You have trouble understanding, of course, you're a beginner. You're just starting.
Now you don't think "Oh, see, I can't doit." You think "Well, this is normal but l' m a great language learner so l' m going to solve this problem and keep going. l' m going to get better and better. This will improve." Your whole attitude is different. So when the same thing happens to you it doesn't stop you. It doesn't hurt your emotions, your energy doesn't drop. You don't lose motivation. You get stronger and better. You decide "Well, this is a short-term problem. l'm going to solve it. l'm going to keep going."
So that's the power of a global belief. It affects everything. Every specific experience is filtered through the global beliefs. So every experience most students have gets filtered through this belief "l'm nota good language learner." But if I you the opposite belief, "l' m a great language learner", well then every experience will be filtered through that.
Okay, so we need to choose our global beliefs. lt's very important. We need to develop empowering global beliefs as well. Not just beliefs about English or beliefs about specific things, but also beliefs about ourselves. Who we are, what we can do, what kind of persan we are. These are the most important kinds ofbeliefs, these global identity beliefs. So you need to look at your own right now about English and learning in general. Do you have limiting, negative global beliefs? What do you think about
yourself? Do you think "Oh, l'm not good at English." Or do you think "Oh, I am a fantastic English learner. I am a fantastic English speaker. I learn languages easily and quickly." Which one? It's a big, big difference. It will have a big effect which one you choose.
So let's talk about how can you build up this identity? How can you choose your identity? Well the first thing you need to decide, just rationally, very carefully, just thinking logically, what kind of beliefs would help you? What kind ofbeliefs would guarantee your success? Those are the ones you want to choose. Consciously choose the beliefs you want about yourself. So go ahead right now, pause this. Geta piece of paper and write clown maybe three or four beliefs, positive, strong beliefs that will change your feeling about yourself. Write clown at least a couple that are related to language learning and English learning, English speaking, and maybe just some very general ones about yourself.
And begin every sentence with "I am..." I am a great language
learner. I am a great English speaker. I am a fast learner, etc. Okay? So four or five, I want you to write them clown. Four or five positive empowering global beliefs, identity beliefs. I am...something. And then after you finish, hit play again and we'll continue. So pause right now and do this, real quick.
Okay, did you do it? Did you write clown your empowering, strong global beliefs? Beliefs about yourself, the ones you want. Good. Well, here's what you're going to do now. You're going to make those strong. And if you remember, the way we make a belief stronger is we add references, we add experiences, we add evidence. We add specific examples that show that it's true. And here's what you're going to do. You're going to think back, think in your life. Think about a time, any time, one experience where you succeeded. You did something that was difficult and you succeeded. And I want you to write that clown again. Pause really quickly, write clown just one example. Something you did that was difficult, you succeeded even though it was difficult. Go ahead, pause, doit.
Okay. Here's what I want you to do now. Think again. We're going to find another reference, another example. Think back again in your life, any time in your life, now, in the past, in the far past, as a child, last week, yesterday, doesn't matter. I want you to think about a time when you learned something...a time when you learned something that seemed difficult. So you learned something, it might have seemed tough at the time, but you did it. You learned it, a new skill, knowledge, anything. Just think about successful times in your past when you learned something.
And you should have more than one so I would like you to write
clown four or five of these. Four or five successful learning
experiences, things that you learned. One example, we all have, you learned your native language. You are a master of Spanish. Write that clown. And write clown four or five other examples of successful learning in your past.
Okay, did you doit? Good. Now I want you to think back, this one might be a little tougher for some of you, maybe not. I hope not. I want you to think back to a time in your past where you were successful with English. Maybe a time where you read something and you understood it and you're really happy "Wow, I understood that article. I understood that story." Maybe a time when you listened to something in English and you understood, and you were very happy. Maybe a time where you spoke a little bit of English and you felt proud, you felt strong "Oh, this is great. I just spoke English." Maybe you wrote something in
English. It doesn't matter. It does not have to be big, something
small is fine. But I want you to find two, three, four, maybe five, maybe ten if you have them, experiences, specific examples of success with English. They can be small, it's okay. Just little examples from your past when you did something successfully with English. Pause now and write them clown.
Alright, did you do it? So now here we have, you have a list of examples. You have examples of meeting a challenge, doing something difficult in your past. You have examples of learning
difficult things in your past. You have examples of succeeding with English in your past. Review them, remember them. And the next step, with each one, one by one, you're going to remember these and you're going to remember them vividly. Remember that word? Vividly, colorfully, big, clear. So take the first one on your list. A past challenge, something in the past that
was difficult but you succeeded. Imagine it. See it in your head right now. See the picture of yourself succeeding. Now make that picture bigger. Bring it doser to you. Make it large. Make it brighter. Make it brighter, more light, more light. More light, it's big and it's bright now, this success that you had in your past.
Now add color. See all the colors in this picture. Make it very colorful. Remember all of the colors in this experience, in this picture. It's big. It's bright. It's colorful.
And finally, associate with the picture. Associate, associate means you're connected, you're in the picture. ln psychology we can disassociate or we can associate. Disassociate means you're separate from something, an experience for example. It's like you're looking at it from the outside. But if you associate with it, it means you're in it. You're part ofit. So I wantyou to associate with this picture. Step into the picture. You are there again.
There you are, in your body again in this successful challenge.
You did it successfully, something that was difficult. You're there.
lt's big. lt's bright. It's colorful. Remember every detail. Feel what you felt at that time. Feel the feelings again. See what you saw.
Hear what you heard. Live it again.
Now corne back. Now the next one, choose again something on your list. A time when you learned something difficult, you succeeded. lt was difficult but you learned it, you mastered it. And again, see the picture. Make that picture larger and larger and larger. Turn it up again, brighter and brighter and brighter. Add color, make it more colorful, more colorful. And finally, step into the picture. Associate with the experience. Live it again. Be there again with this second experience. Successful learning, you did it. Feel it. Feel how it felt. Live it again, breathe it again.
Feels good.
One more time, let's doit again. From your list choose a successful English experience. Anything, it can be small, it's okay. lt can be big, that's fine, too. A time you did something with English successfully, you understood. You spoke. You read something. lt doesn't matter. But you had some kind of success with English in the past. I know you have something. So pick one. Got it? And one more time, the same thing. See that picture.
See yourself succeeding. Speaking English or understanding it.
Live it again. See it. Now make that picture bigger, bigger, doser to you, doser to you, doser, bigger, larger, larger, larger. Let's add some light. Turn it up. Make it brighter and brighter and brighter. A nice bright, large picture in your brain, this successful experience from your past with English. Once again add color. It should be a colorful picture. Remember the colors. See them dearly, distinctly, powerfully, vividly. And the last step, step into the picture. Become part of the picture. Associate with it. Be in that experience again. Live it again. Live it again, the success with English. Feel what you felt. Feel the happiness. Feel the pride.
Okay, and corne back again. Now here's what I want you to do. Every day this week I want you to do this. I want you to review your list. Look at this list and do this exercise every time, every day. You pick something from your list. See it. Make it bigger. Make it brighter, more colorful. And then step into it and live it again. Feel it again. Do this every day this week. You'll start to change your global beliefs. You'll change your identity. And just to be sure, make sure you write clown those beliefs "I am a fast learner of English. I am an excellent English speaker." Write those clown and review them also. Through this process, by doing this just one week, maybe ten days, maybe two weeks, you will have a big change in your identity related to English.
You can do this in any part of your life. l'm focused on English learning so that's what we're focusing on but you can actually do this with anything. But for now, focus on English and see if it makes a difference. See how it will change your learning, your confidence, your feelings when you learn English, when you speak English. You'll feel stronger. You'll feel smarter. You'll feel more successful and you'll become more successful by doing this.
Alright, well that is the end of our main talk for "Identity." I will see you on the next.
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Welcome to the mini-story for "Identity." You feel good? You standing tall? Good posture? Deep breathing, moving your body, big smile? Are you ready? I thought so. Good, let's go!
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There was a really cool guy named Ken. But what did Ken have? Ken had a problem. You know, everybody has problems it seems
and it's true. Everybody has a problem. Ken had a problem. Ken's problem was he didn't like his job. Ken was a bored accountant.
He wanted a new identity.
Unfortunately, he had some negative global beliefs. He was an accountant and he thought "Well, l'm an accountant so l'm boring. And l'm weak."
Still, he decided to change his job so he quit his accountant job.
And he became a taxi driver.
He thought it would be exciting.
It was boring.
He decided to change his identity. He decided to change his global beliefs.
He decided on a new belief, new belief number one "l' m strong and l'm tough."
Every day he said this. "I'm strong and I'm tough. I'm strong and I'm tough." Every day he remembered references from his past when he was strong and tough.
He had another empowering global belief. He said "I'm exciting. I'm exciting. I'm an exciting persan." He thought about references from his past, every time in his past when he was exciting.
So every day he made his empowering beliefs stronger and stronger. Soon he had a new identity, a strong, exciting identity. He decided to get a new job. Ken decided to become a vampire killer.
A vampire is a monster, like Dracula. A vampire sucks blood from people. A vampire kills people, a big monster. Ken decided I will kill vampires. That's an exciting job, much better than accountant.
It was exciting. Vampire killing was exciting to Ken. He loved it.
It was so exciting.
He had a new identity. He said "I'm strong. I'm tough. I'm exciting and I'm a vampire killer." Ken loved his new job and Ken loved his new identity.
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Okay, that is the end of the mini-story for "Identity." As always, listen, listen, listen deeply. Remember to use those different distinctions, remember those? Listen for understanding for a while, for a few days. Then try to be fast when you respond, when you answer. Then listen very carefully for pronunciation. And finally, imitate me, my voice, my emotion, everything. So you can do that for one or two weeks, at least, possibly longer with each lesson. Then you'll learn very, very deeply. That's the power of the mini-staries. One time listening to them is nothing. It won't help you so much. But if you use that system, I promise you it will help a lot. You will learn so much English grammar intuitively and naturally. And one day you'll start speaking and you'll use correct grammar without thinking at all. But you have to follow that system, so please follow the system correctly.
Okay, I will see you on the next!
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Welcome to the mini-story for "Identity." You feel good? You standing tall? Good posture? Deep breathing, moving your body, big smile? Are you ready? I thought so. Good, let's go!
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There was a really cool guy named Ken. But what did Ken have? Ken had a problem. You know, everybody has problems it seems and it's true. Everybody has a problem. Ken had a problem. Ken's problem was he didn't like his job. Ken was a bored accountant.
Was Ken a happy accountant?
No, he was a bored accountant.
How did Ken feel?
Well, he felt bored. Ken was a bored accountant.
Whatwas he?
A bored accountant, Ken was a bored accountant.
Was he a bored salesman?
Not a salesman, he was a bored accountant.
He wanted a new identity.
Did Ken want to be a bored accountant?
No, he didn't. He did not want to be a bored accountant. He wanted a new identity.
Did he want a new job?
Yes, he wanted a new job.
Did he want to feel differently about himself?
Yes, he wanted to feel differently about himself. He wanted a new job. He wanted his whole life to be different. He wanted a new identity.
Who wanted a new identity?
Ken, Ken wanted a new identity.
Did he want an old identity or a new identity?
A new one, he wanted a new identity.
Unfortunately, he had some negative global beliefs. He was an accountant and he thought "Well, l'm an accountant so l'm boring. And l'm weak."
What were his negative, limiting global beliefs?
Number one, "l'rn boring." Number two, "l'rn weak." So he had two limiting global beliefs, identity beliefs about himself.
Who had two negative global beliefs about himself?
Ken, Ken had two negative global beliefs about himself.
What were they?
Well, they were "l'rn boring" and "l'rn weak." These were his negative global beliefs.
Still, he decided to change his job so he quit his accountant job.
And he became a taxi driver.
What did he become?
He became a taxi driver.
What kind of job did he get?
He got a job driving taxi, he became a taxi driver.
Did he become a bus driver or a taxi driver?
A taxi driver.
Why, why did he become a taxi driver?
He thought it would be exciting.
What did he think about driving a taxi?
He thought it would be exciting.
Who thought it would be exciting?
Ken, Ken thought it would be exciting.
He thought what would be exciting?
Driving a taxi, he thought driving a taxi would be exciting.
Was it exciting?
No, it wasn't exciting.
It was boring.
How was taxi driving?
It was boring. Taxi driving was boring.
Was it a boring job or an exciting job?
It was a boring job. Taxi driving was a boring job for Ken.
Why was it boring?
W ell, because every day customers complained to him.
Who complained to him?
Customers, customers complained to him every day.
What did they do?
Complained, they complained to him every day.
Who did the customers complain to?
They complained to Ken every day.
Was this exciting for Ken?
No, it wasn't exciting for Ken. He was bored. He felt bored.
Did he feel bored as a taxi driver?
Yes, he felt bored as a taxi driver.
Did he feel bored as an accountant?
Yes, he felt bored as an accountant and then he felt bored as a taxi driver.
How did he feel in his two jobs?
Bored, he felt bored. He was bored as an accountant. He was bored as a taxi driver.
He decided to change his identity. He decided to change his global beliefs.
What were his negative global beliefs? Remember?
W ell number one was "l' m boring, l' m a boring person" and number two "l' m a weak person, l' m weak." Tho se were his two negative limiting global beliefs. He decided to change them.
What were his new, empowering global beliefs?
W ell, number one "l' m strong and tough."
He decided on a new belief, new belief number one "l' m strong and l'm tough."
Every day he said this. "l'rn strong and l'm tough. l'm strong and l'm tough." Every day he remembered references from his past when he was strong and tough.
He had another empowering global belief. He said "I'm exciting. I'm exciting. I'm an exciting persan." He thought about references from his past, every time in his past when he was exciting.
What kind ofbeliefs were these?
Empowering, these were empowering beliefs. Strong beliefs, positive beliefs, empowering beliefs.
Whose empowering beliefs were these?
These were Ken's empowering beliefs, his new empowering beliefs.
So every day he made his empowering beliefs stronger and stronger. Soon he had a new identity, a strong, exciting identity. He decided to get a new job. Ken decided to become a vampire killer.
What's a vampire?
A vampire is a monster, like Dracula. A vampire sucks blood from people. A vampire kills people, a big monster. Ken decided I will kill vampires. That's an exciting job, much better than accountant.
Which was more exciting? Vampire killing or accounting?
W ell, of course, vampire killing. Vampire killing was a much more exciting job than accounting.
Did Ken like to kill vampires?
Oh, yes, he did.
He loved killing vampires. It was exciting and fun. Every day Ken fought and killed vampires.
Was vampire killing boring to Ken?
No, it wasn't boring to Ken.
Howwas it?
lt was exciting. Vampire killing was exciting to Ken. He loved it.
lt was so exciting.
Did Ken enjoy vampire killing?
Of course, he did. He loved vampire killing.
Did Ken have a new identity?
Yes, he did.
He had a new identity. He said "I'm strong. I'm tough. I'm exciting and I'm a vampire killer." Ken loved his new job and Ken loved his new identity.
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Okay, that is the end of the mini-story for "Identity." As always, listen, listen, listen deeply. Remember to use those different distinctions, remember those? Listen for understanding for a while, for a few days. Then try to be fast when you respond, when you answer. Then listen very carefully for pronunciation. And finally, imitate me, my voice, my emotion, everything. So you can do that for one or two weeks, at least, possibly longer with each lesson. Then you'll learn very, very deeply. That's the power of the
mini-staries. One time listening to them is nothing. It won't help you so much. But if you use that system, I promise you it will help a lot. You will learn so much English grammar intuitively and naturally. And one day you'll start speaking and you'll use correct grammar without thinking at all. But you have to follow that system, so please follow the system correctly.
Okay, I will see you on the next!